00:15:24 Lorraine Moos: I think I paid for the session - I dont have ICF LA membership but gen ICF membership 00:16:26 Megan Bauer: Same for me. I am an Oregon chapter member and am wondering if we are able to get CCEUs for this as well? 00:20:13 Megan Bauer: Thank you, Joan! 00:21:06 Lorraine Moos: i am not from Oregon or LA, but I paid for the session when I registered. How do I get my CCEs? 00:27:53 Shauna Prince: Making requests where there is existing conflict with another person, or where they tend to listen through a judgmental filter based on past triggers. I notice myself sometimes walking on egg shells and being very careful in my communication which can be exhausting. 00:30:05 Megan Bauer: I’m really excited for this session. I have three ideas in mind: A request I would like to make for the organization of the home A request I might have about timelines with organizational clients How to continue to support my clients with their boundaries Any of these would be helpful! This is also my first session in the series :) 00:30:15 Lorraine Moos: Boundaries could also depend on cultural norms 00:32:18 Shauna Prince: I am curious about the details of the session tomorrow 00:32:19 Dr. Desiree Briel Rodi, Co-Host: Reacted to "I’m really excited for this session. I have three ideas in mind: A request I would like to make for the organization of the home A request I might have about timelines with organizational clients How to continue to support my clients with their boundaries Any of these would be helpful! This is also my first session in the series :)" with ❤️ 00:32:55 Melody Montgomery: My connection isn’t great. A scenario I see frequently in coaching commercial real estate brokers is they get lost in the details of the deal. I work on setting boundaries that I want to u destined their business, but I don’t need the minutiae 00:33:07 Dr. Desiree Briel Rodi, Co-Host: Replying to "I’m really excited f..." Identifying the needs beneath the requests can be really valuable. We will discuss more on this 00:33:29 Kevin Corbett: Reacted to "I am curious about the details of the session tomorrow " with 👍 00:34:06 Dr. Desiree Briel Rodi, Co-Host: Replying to "I’m really excited f..." Learning to unearth needs and align them to be strategic is also really helpful. No one has to lose, we just need to get ourselves on the same side of the issue so we can strategically design a way to meet the various needs that are calling for attention. 00:36:06 Dr. Desiree Briel Rodi, Co-Host: Replying to "I am curious about t..." Tomorrow’s session is an open house where you can come ask questions. If there are only a few people, we will dive into practicing giving ourselves and others empathy - slowing down to listen deeply to ourselves and others, and to listen for the needs beneath the emotions and words. Once we understand the needs beneath the emotions, we can then figure out ways of meeting the needs. 00:37:15 Dr. Desiree Briel Rodi, Co-Host: Replying to "Boundaries could als..." Gaining clarity on the beliefs we have around boundaries and these cultural pieces can also be very enlightening and can give us choices. Do our cultural norms or beliefs serve us in every situation? If not, what might we want to do instead? Unveiling our choices is key… 00:38:45 Dr. Desiree Briel Rodi, Co-Host: Replying to "My connection isn’t ..." What I understand is that they have a need for details, and you have a need for a bigger picture view, for keeping the end goal in mind. Is there a way to acknowledge their needs and your needs and to find strategies to meet both needs? 00:43:02 Dr. Desiree Briel Rodi, Co-Host: I find it helpful to think of relationships, professional and personal, as A + B = C, where C is really the impact you want to have, the outcome you are looking for, the experience you’d like to have, and you are A. What can you change through clarity around your needs, through curiosity, through boundaries, etc., that are in your control and might shift C? How do you start prototyping and experimenting? 01:08:19 Gigi Nang: being vulnerable 01:09:28 Kevin Corbett: The feeling of not knowing what the response might be is always worse than the feeling that comes with the actual response. 01:09:33 xiaomei zhou: fear 01:10:25 Lindsay Lincoln: For me it’s also deeeep fear- super Wagnerian- that I’ll be a disappointment, unloveable etc etc 01:10:38 Gigi Nang: Reacted to "For me it’s also deeeep fear- super Wagnerian- that I’ll be a disappointment, unloveable etc etc" with ❤️ 01:11:20 Megan Bauer: Replying to "For me it’s also dee..." Hear you Lindsay. I understand being a recovering people pleaser. 01:11:29 Carl Miller: Reacted to "For me it’s also deeeep fear- super Wagnerian- that I’ll be a disappointment, unloveable etc etc" with ❤️ 01:11:35 Carl Miller: Reacted to "Hear you Lindsay. I understand being a recovering people pleaser." with ❤️ 01:13:16 Lorraine Moos: Replying to "For me it’s also deeeep fear- super Wagnerian- that I’ll be a disappointment, unloveable etc etc" At what point is detachment from the other person's response ( if you've tried in the past) something we should do? 01:14:56 xiaomei zhou: How this work related or use NVC? Thx 01:19:50 Megan Bauer: “I” statements 01:19:55 Shauna Prince: What if they say no... 01:20:56 Shauna Prince: Reacted to For me it’s also dee... with "❤️" 01:23:40 Lindsay Lincoln: Reacted to "Hear you Lindsay. I understand being a recovering people pleaser." with ❤️ 01:26:26 Shauna Prince: Can you leave me out of break out this time please. I can do this solo 01:26:35 Joan Flora: Someone keeps interrupting while you're trying to concentrate. ● You're carrying more than your share of the household work. ● A meeting keeps drifting away from the agenda. 01:34:42 Megan Bauer: Calmer 01:35:22 Lindsay Lincoln: Carl- would you be willing to share your particular request 01:35:52 Megan Bauer: I think it also shifts the focus from the other person to yourself in a supportive way 01:36:11 Carl Miller: Replying to "Carl- would you be w..." What matters to me is our connection…. I’d love to know what it is you need from me right now. ( a bit more but that is the just) 01:36:25 Carl Miller: Replying to "Carl- would you be w..." ‘Jist” 01:37:03 Lindsay Lincoln: Replying to "Carl- would you be willing to share your particular request" Sweeet thanks! 01:37:09 Carl Miller: Reacted to "Sweeet thanks!" with ❤️ 01:37:36 Gigi Nang: Reacted to "I think it also shifts the focus from the other person to yourself in a supportive way" with ❤️ 01:37:40 Kathleen Polscer: Reacted to "What matters to me is our connection…. I’d love to know what it is you need from me right now. ( a bit more but that is the just)" with ❤️ 01:37:52 Kathleen Polscer: Replying to "Carl- would you be w..." This was great 01:38:29 Carl Miller: Thank you Joan! Loved this! 01:38:32 Alex Salazar: Thank you Joan and all! 01:38:54 Joan Flora: Join Zoom Meeting https://us06web.zoom.us/j/4328557423?pwd=JQG9NSCgHdybLYyBmBRQNokvbO5XVG.1 Meeting ID: 432 855 7423 Passcode: v7sr80 01:38:56 Gigi Nang: Thank you!! Love this and learned a lot. 01:39:01 Kathleen Polscer: Replying to "Carl- would you be w..." Carl you can find me on LinkedIn if you want to connect 01:39:54 Lorraine Moos: Thanks for an awesome session, Joan 01:39:55 xiaomei zhou: Thank you so much much! 01:40:11 Kevin Corbett: Thank you. Appreciated the session today!